Alright, alright. I know what you are thinking. I don’t take up that much room. I need more room, he’s not using that space anyway!
Why can’t he share the garage?!
This competition for space and dividing the necessary room for more things has been an ongoing battle between men and women for a very long time. Regardless of what time period you are from, men have always settled for less space. (Arguing the fact that men are responsible for zoning issues and spreading humanity over the face of the planet is not this topic’s point and should not be considered when discussing space issues.)
Women, who tend to have an incredible bounty of belongings that defy the laws of reason, continue to spread themselves throughout their homes and find more reason to fill space. Men are more reserved. The amount of space a man may need does not depend on the amount of stuff he has. The space a man needs is for a more distinctive purpose.
So why do women need more and men don’t need much?
Let’s face it. Women have an incredible amount of stuff. (If you would like a lesson in stuff, I suggest that whoever reads this blog post listen to George Carlin’s skit on stuff.) To store all the stuff that a woman accumulates, a woman needs space. From closet space to shelf space, a woman’s belongings hold a significant precedence over a man’s belongings.
Women have nick knacks. They have art supplies. They have clothes. They have shoes! They need more space for all this stuff! The stuff that belongs to a man tends to be dirty, messy or just unnecessary so of course a woman would feel compelled to remove their dirty belongings and replace it with a clean throw pillow or an organized display of Christmas villages.
Women have to stretch.
Women need a large amount of space so as to not feel claustrophobic. Women who feel trapped within their own homes feel that they must stretch their legs and move things around. Women need change in their lives and need their homes to reflect the mood that they are feeling each and every day.
A woman has a strong need for a comfortable space. The space a woman will consume must have pillows that compliment the room’s paint configuration and bring warmth to their household. Matching is key in a woman’s space. If it doesn’t belong it has to go! The guests who enter a woman’s space must feel welcomed. A welcoming environment is a popular place in which the woman can brag about.
A woman’s space is her identity.
Enough about the women’s needs for a moment, after all, this blog is an instruction guide for understanding men. So why is it that men do not need the amount of space that a woman would need? Do men not have the same amount of stuff as women? Do men not have an interest in being comfortable? Do men like feeling cramped?
What is the real reason for my man to not share his space with me when I have so much more stuff than him?
Men are not complicated creatures. When it comes to space, Men do not consider the need of space to connect with the quantity of belongings he has. Men are fine with living in a mess. A man’s messy space is his clay to mould. They can reconstruct their space into an organized piece of art and destroy it into shattered pieces all in the same day. Men do not need space simply for their stuff. So what is the secret to their need for space?
Men need solitude.
Yes. Man Cave, Bachelor Pad, Watering Hole or the Bat Cave, whatever the name it is, the place that men need to escape to is a special place. Men need a private space to disappear to. What most women don’t know or understand is that men need to reflect in their space. The thirty minutes of silence can be practiced here if a man should desire to do so. Space to most men is not merely a void to fill. Space is valued. Space is vital to a man’s mental survival.
Though most men do not try to tackle the problems of the world, they still need a place to reflect on the problems that immediately affect their lives. A man’s problems, whether they range from ‘what to eat for lunch’ to ‘delivering the sex conversation to their son,’ can carry an incredible impact on a man’s mind. Space and time are key to handling these problems and the garage is an ideal location for this reflection process.
Men also like to have a place to enjoy some free time. Whether a man is a father or just wants to mess around with the new tools he bought, he needs a place to tinker. Men love to spend some free time just being a man. In the space distributed to him, your man can scratch, fart, curse or break things without being judged or criticized excessively. This is important to the preservation of a man’s ego.
My man doesn’t want to spend time with me?
Absolutely not! Your man enjoys having you around all the time. Like most people, we need space from others, simply to avoid arguments. Men do not want to argue with their wives. Like the armies of a losing force, men need a place to retreat. A man knows instinctively when the war is lost as an argument begins to ensue between him and his wife.
In order for a man to avoid saying anything that would ultimately put him in a bad situation, a man should have a place to consider his position in the argument and come to a logical and fair conclusion. If your man can come to this conclusion through the reflection process it will provide healthy compromise to the relationship.
My man does not have a ‘man cave’ where does he go?
If your man does not have a space to retreat or tinker, allow him space to breath. Time in front of the television with his favorite program can work wonders for your man’s reflection process. Refer to the ’30 minutes of silence’ blog post for additional information.
Men need space too. A man’s space is an essential component to his reflection process in order to handle a complicated query adequately and efficently. When considering putting your extra stuff in the garage remember to consider your man’s needs as well.